Posted by: tlnemethy | September 14, 2012

New York State of Mind

I hated New York City with as strong a passion as one can produce without having gone to the location itself. I hated its popularity among people who were proving themselves in the world, I hated it for being so trafficked and chaotic when I’d rather be driving backroads with my own as the only headlights for miles. I like the solitude that the country brings me, and solitude is not what I’d ever thought of as New York City.  But when one decides to broaden their experiences and actually stop jumping to assumptions the truth is uncovered.

I was chomping at the bit to visit a friend from college who’s interning in the Big Apple and once I found out that it was a cheap ticket into the city I stopped dragging my heels and bought that sucker. Now let’s just say that I felt like I had earned an extremely large amount of money this summer, and looking back in retrospect it apparently wasn’t that much moolah. Buying a car will do that to you I guess. So, after discovering this beautiful thing called the Fung Wah bus line from Boston to New York was only $15 dollars each way I couldn’t believe my luck. It didn’t matter that both my dad and stepdad both knew of multiple deaths attributed to this bus line spanning it’s existence. Apparently, the fare doesn’t even cover gas, let alone mechanical improvements on the buses themselves. And the bus drivers are notorious for leaning half out the window while in motion because they aren’t allowed to smoke aboard. Let’s just say that when I boarded the bus I got worried that there were barf bags in each row.

The ride down to New York was fitful and the guy sitting next to me was slightly sketchy. He spoke Russian loudly into his cell phone and  I kept catching random words. Thank you Russian school. Anyway, the fact that he was Russian wasn’t sketchy, but more so the fact that I watched him decimate an entire loaf of bread and some wet oatmeal smelling sandwich. I repeat. An entire loaf of bread AND a sandwich. His fingernails were also exceptionally long and gross. And generally I’m not one to notice shit like that.

I woke up from my nap just as we were crossing the bridge into New York City. The buildings on the side of the bridge must have been condos and they towered far higher than any building I’d ever seen. They looked like half cogs, like the parts that fill machinery and make them tick, gears grinding and churning out new machines. I liked the look of them interestingly enough. I liked those cog condos although I would never step foot in one. They reminded me of the production New York was known for, way back in the day when it was still known as New Amsterdam and immigrants would pass through seeking the American dream. There’s nothing like history to shape our current understandings.

Posted by: tlnemethy | September 11, 2012

Louisiana… Not Just Bourbon St.

I first went to Louisiana years before the wake of devastation that was Katrina and as my family didn’t currently have any roots there, we stuck with the tourist destination of New Orleans. I was young, generally in a pissy mood, and disliked any activity that involved walking so naturally I hated the visit. I don’t remember much other than walking Bourbon street with my parents and my brother in search of the famous Cafe du Monde and their delicious sugar-powdered fried dough balls called beignets. Now fried dough of any kind is something that Pavlov could have made me salivate over. The three falls I spent outside New England for college were some of the most trying for me not because school was overly difficult or because I was hating the new region, but because I was utterly homesick for the season’s fairs to begin. Fair season is a time for you to wander carnivals and pumpkin patches, petting zoos and french fry stands and all through the convenience of packing them into a day’s adventure that costs only an admission fee. Fried dough is a staple at such events and, I believe, it was a driving force behind traversing the historical streets of New Orleans.

If memory serves, Cafe du Monde was closed when we finally found it, so we never got our beignets after all. But I’ve come to realize that Bourbon Street is not Louisiana, just as Boston is not Massachusetts. There is always so much more to a state than the attractions it is known for. I’ve since been to Louisiana three times, and I have yet to return to New Orleans. I’m sure I will, as my childhood memories never do justice to anything, but when you revisit sites off the beaten path you appreciate them for their serene inaccessibility rather than the touristy appeals that could also detract from the true nature of the site. I’ve driven beside the bogs where rice is harvested, I’ve seen the crawfish pots out in the tiny pools of water after the season has ended. I love those pots. They seem so bereft and misplaced laying half-buried in the muck, almost as if they were forgotten. The bayous are the perfect places to misplace or be misplaced, but even so, I know those crawfish pots will be found when the season begins and will resume their places in the world.

If only we could all be so lucky. I tell you that I’ve done more in the neighborhoods that no one visits, I’ve seen history at its core. There is a grain silo that I watch get demolished a little more every time I visit: the metal is pricey and greedy fingers have picked away at it, carting what they can to be sold to scrap yards. The only piece of it left is the funnel-shaped top. It must be too big to cart away and too difficult to pick away at, but I wonder if one day it too will be gone when I visit. How will I find my way if this landmark is gone, if the only remnant of its presence is a ring of dead grass in a field? Will I drive around in confusion as my own memories are now distorted through its disappearance? I chased an armadillo through a field in a tiny town called Eunice, I shot a pistol at a log from the banks of the bayou, I learned how to cook gumbo and etouffee at a farmhouse with pecan trees. If I were to get misplaced I don’t think I’d mind it being Louisiana, as long as it wasn’t where a tourist would spill beer on me or sing too loudly or mispronounce the traditional creole roots of dishes in a restaurant. To be misplaced allows for you to experience something not available when your location can be pinpointed by a smart phone. Bury yourself in the mud, wiggle into the smooth darkness if you want, but never close your eyes to the swaying of the rice stalks or your ears to the whispers of the crawfish.

Posted by: tlnemethy | September 8, 2012

Drinking Like a Fish in Louisiana, Well Not Really

I’ll tell you that turning 21 is a milestone as ALL young people know. This ain’t yo mama’s day when the society didn’t care how old you were if you had a beer in your hand. No sir. Today, a young person must drink in secret, underground opium dens to avoid the watchful eye of camera phones, Facebook, twitter, instagram, uploads, or gasp their own fellow party goers. Sure, college kids are known for their unquenchable thirst, but the ulcers we develop are not from the booze, but from the constant prickle of judgement. To bypass this unorthodox sickness, I just stayed away from alcohol all together in college. Sure, this is the part where you say quite sarcastically “Right. And I’m part cactus on my father’s side.”

Well I did. For the most part I can count my nights of drinking on one hand. What was I doing with my college experience?! Squandering it studying and keeping my nose clean, well that and maintaining a healthy sleep schedule while harboring a nasty penchant for Farmville. I live a colorful life. My first “party” was well into my sophomore year of college and even so I drank water out of that red solo cup, all the while taking in how much booze affects the life of the party.

I had just turned 19 the first time I even saw a game of beer pong outside of the glowing rectangle of my television. I guess you could say that I did not live the college existence that most do, that I wasted some of the most valuable networking attempts and opportunities being the oddly sober one. It is true that I believe I missed out on a valuable part of human socialization.

We remember those milestones in our life don’t we? Those unforgettable minutes and hours that become ingrained into the hard drives of our brains? Just as I will remember my 18th birthday was spent watching Shark Week, I will remember that I bought my first legal alcoholic beverage from a drive thru liqueur store in Louisiana. It was sickeningly sweet and I harbored the buzz while surrounded by my newly acquired and still-in-the-unfamiliar-phase-but-loveable-nonetheless relatives. It was a classy Styrofoam cup with salt on the lid, but it contained a peach margarita. They didn’t ask for my ID and I was disappointed, but I accepted the drink as retribution.

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